Friends & Whānau

The journey of exploring identity can be an emotional and delicate experience for your loved one and for yourself. This can be a very vulnerable time for them but your support is precious. There’s no secret formula to supporting them except to be present, to listen, to respect their boundaries and to treat them like you would any other friend.

Here’s are our best tips:


Helpful resources:

Groups

Holding Our Own
A support group for parents of LGBTQ children based in Auckland

The I’m Local Project
The I’m Local Project aims to help queer & gender diverse youth all over Aotearoa to feel valued, recognised and supported in their local communities by providing free, identity affirming resources.

Resources (NZ)

Growing Up Takatāpui: Whānau Journeys
Interviews with seven takatāpui rangatahi and their whānau inform this resource about the journey to and the importance of whānau support in a takatāpui young person's life.

Help! Is My Child Transgender?
Information developed by Gender Minorities Aotearoa from the frequently asked questions and stories they receive from parents about gender identity.

Miscellaneous 
This is a blog about mental health, social justice, and sharing resources related to the health and wellbeing of people with diverse sexes, genders, and sexualities

Resources (International)

Parenting and Family (U.S.)

Every family is unique, with different family dynamics, as well as cultural, social, and religious influences. Learn more about how these influences can affect the children in your life.

First Steps 
Shared Stories from parents and caregivers of trans* and gender diverse children

Trans 101 for Friends and Family (AUS)
Has someone around you recently come out? There can be a lot to catch up on, so here's what you need to know.

Being a Supportive Parent (AUS)
There are heaps of different ways people describe their sexual or gender identities, which we understand for some parents or guardians can be a little overwhelming.

How to Talk to School Staff and Parents About Gender Identity (U.S.)
A guide by USC Rossier for parents and school staff about understanding gender identity is in school environments. The guide also includes a glossary of gender identity terms for school counselors and teachers.

Intersex

What We Wish Our Parents Knew (U.S.)
InterACT created this resource as a way to prepare other families with intersex kids for the journey ahead of them.